Valentine’s Day is a couple days away and it is the time people express their undying love and devotion to each other. Couples give gifts of: chocolates, flowers, jewelry, and other tokens that may be cherished and enjoyed for the moment or for a very long time. Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the book “The Five Love Languages” revolutionized the way we view loving associations. He identified: acts of service, gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, and quality time as motivators for building happy relationships. A person may have one distinct language that makes them truly happy or may have a combination of these languages that makes them feel loved and appreciated. If you know which language(s) you or your partner speaks, then you are already ahead of the game, and can daily nurture your connection for a happy relationship.
In two days you may be on your way to enjoy a romantic vacation. Maybe you are heading to an exotic location like Barbados, Bora Bora, Maui, Santorini, Tahiti, or some other island that wreaks romance. You want this vacation to be indelibly written on her mind and be remembered as the best everrr for the rest of your lives. So, I propose you spend this vacation with the girl of your dreams discovering what love language she speaks. You can practice a motivator each day to see which one(s) she responds to the best. Don’t know what to do? Here are some easy suggestions to start you off. Bear in mind, you can practice all the love languages in one day, but if you are on a five-day holiday why not assimilate one each day.
Acts of service – Plan a bespoke itinerary for each day of the vacation that says you put some thought into it. To avoid any objections, take care of household chores that you know she may be concerned about in your absence. Handle all the scheduling details for an evening of dinner, dance and entertainment. As much as you can, pre-arrange to have her commitments resolved before leaving on the trip. Consort with her work supervisors for the time off and surprise her at the job with tickets neatly tucked into a bouquet of flowers. Last but certainly not least, select her favorite clothes, pack her bags and have them waiting by the door ready for your departure.
Gifts – After a day of exploring the island, she may feel exhausted but a gift of one or all of the items listed will surely perk her up. You would be surprised to see how fast the exhaustion disappears into thin air: a bouquet of flowers, a box of the finest Belgium chocolates, or a beautiful piece of jewelry in the signature baby-blue colored box you know she has been eyeing for a long time. She may squeal with delight, I would, and by this reaction or even the lack there of, you may know whether you are on to discovering gifts as one of her love languages. Giving her a gift when she least expects it may warrant a reaction that is priceless. After all, everyone loves a good gift and if it is given in a unique way, the story will be retold for weeks, months and years to come.
Physical touch – On your down times take a leisurely stroll on the beach or along a garden path. Walking hand in hand will speak volumes of tenderness to her mind. A light touch on the back or on the shoulder may be interpreted to mean, I support you, or we are connected. These physical touches transmit a sense of loving appreciation. Show her you are attentive by occasionally holding her hand, recline against her shoulder, or lay your head on her lap.
Words of affirmation – Believe it or not but this is one of the most difficult of the languages to express. If you spout words of love too much you may run the risk of making it sound trite. If you express sentiment grudgingly you may come across as cold and your words forced. Therefore, choosing your words, delivery and timing are key to making sure your person feels loved and respected. Use a candlelight dinner in a cozy restaurant to talk of all the qualities that you find fascinating about her. You don’t have to be untruthful, you only need to be sincere. Let her know you appreciate the little things she may think are mundane but that means the world to you. Let her know how well she does them and because of that you have learned to stay in your lane when it comes to certain areas where, in your book, she’s the expert.
Quality time – This time is probably the best love language of all. Just my opinion, hehehe. You can either lay on the beach, sip a mocktail, listen to the sound of the waves lapping in the ebb and flow, feel the gentle breezes as they rustle through the palm trees, enjoy the glow of the evening’s sunset, or you can set an appointment to receive a full body massage for two and enjoy the therapeutic benefits of the deep kneading that often lulls you to sleep. No words are necessary. Being there and quietly sharing the moment is the perfect finale to a five-day trip.
There you have it folks a romantic vacation to remember. You have learned how to speak her love language and have fun doing it while on vacation. Thank you for reading and viewing my site from time to time. Feel free to add your comments in the box below. As usual, I encourage you to follow, like, and share with your family and friends. Happy Valentine’s y’all.